How many reps does it take?
When it comes to personal development the most important thing I've learned has been the importance of putting in the reps.
It reminds me of how I feel about working out. I'm not always motivated and my mindset can be distracted. I know I should workout, so I show up. Usually I expect very little from myself. My goal is always to keep the habit no matter the motivation. This way, if I don't get much accomplished, at least I know I did something even when I didn't feel like it. And I had integrity with my word when I said I was going to workout.
This concept flows into every aspect of life. Want to show someone you love them? You'll put in repetitive effort to do so. The more reps, the stronger the result. Want to learn patience? Use every time you feel annoyed as an opportunity to do a rep. Practicing being a better listener? Each conversation you have will be one rep.
When your motivation is lacking, that's the opportune time to put in the work. That's the difference between who you are and who you want to be. It's a matter of the amount of repetitions of a habit you do that score in favor or against who you want to be.
How many reps are necessary for change? How many reps are necessary for growth? How many reps are necessary to master the skill?
It's an endless pursuit. Or as Bob Iger says, "The relentless pursuit of perfection."
Each rep counts. Each rep is important. If you simply do the best you can with the reps you put in today, you will wake up better tomorrow because you did the difficult thing.
I can much more easily talk myself out of doing something I know I should do, than talk myself into doing something I don't feel motivated to do. When I become aware of myself starting to make excuses in my head for why I should procrastinate, I force myself to do the thing I don't want to do.
Put in your reps. Have integrity with your word and do the thing you said you would do even when you don't feel like it. You definitely wont improve or move towards your goals by doing nothing.